I’m still too much of a traditionalist to want to meet someone for a real relationship through some online profile.I really don’t know why, but I think it’s the one part of me that kind of believes in fate or something bigger than myself (yes, bigger than the internet). I fear I will wake up one day and won’t recognize the person whom I have been sharing all my life with. I fear he will not be the same person I fell in love with. Too much can go wrong in a relationship — no matter how well things seem to be going, love can be over without warning.Adrien Chen recently wrote an amazing article in part on meeting people online, and the depth of the relationship that is possible.He noted: “When someone asks me how I know someone and I say “the internet,” there is often a subtle pause, as if I had revealed we’d met through a benign but vaguely kinky hobby, like glassblowing class, maybe. Anyways, I think I’m just afraid of dating in general, more so than meeting people online.It’s not that I can’t do it, I’d just prefer not to have to.
We’d mostly fight about little stuff — what movie to watch, where to go to dinner, blah blah blah!
I almost feel like I’d rather be single than go through the ups and downs of dating someone.
I’m not afraid to admit it — at this point, I’m scared of being in a relationship. I’ve never liked dealing with feelings — they freak me out.
n today’s episode, we’re going to talk about my own blazing hypocrisy. What I don’t quite understand myself is why I believe rather strongly that you can make wonderful friendships online that transfer to in-person magic, but somehow think differently about doing so for romantic relationships.
“But Elise,” you might be asking yourself, “on which topic? Specifically, the fact that I can’t shake this stigma around online dating, even when I have plenty of Internet friends whom I cherish. Do years of fiction-induced brainwashing play a role?